DISCOVER 7 REASONS WHY EVEN THE HAPPIEST HUSBANDS CHEAT - HOW CAN YOU REDUCE THAT IS IT POSSIBLE FIND OUT

• Infidelity is a heartbreak no one should ever have to deal with, but when it happens, most couples are left with haunting questions. No one situation can be placed in a tidy box of reasons, but if you and your husband were happily married when he had an affair, these can explain how this happened.
  
  
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• He's covering up insecurities

  Your husband is likely a great spouse. And as a great spouse, he might feel a lot of pressure to make sure you and everyone else in the family is happy.
  But deep down he could be suffering.
  Is work overwhelming? Does he feel like it's impossible for him to succeed as a parent? Is he remembering unresolved insecurities from years ago?
  If he feels a lot of pressure to keep your family happy, he may never feel comfortable revealing those problems, said marriage therapist Aaron Anderson.
  "Instead of being able to talk out loud about their insecurities, wants, regrets, etc. they continue on living a life that makes them only superficially happy," he said. "But they have deeper desires that are going unfulfilled. It's the need to fulfill those deeper desires and their inability to talk out loud about them that makes them try to get them fulfilled in secrecy (e.g. by having an affair)."

• It's easier to look for something new rather than talk about expectations

  Men don't just need sex; they need emotional connection (just like women). But unfortunately, it's usually pretty painful for a man to tell his wife he doesn't feel appreciated, according to marriage counselor M. Gary Neuman. After all, it's not "manly" to ask for more affirmation.
  He will shove those emotional disappointments to the back of his brain and deal with them later.
  Ladies, that later is scary. Those emotions will eventually surface, and if he feels more appreciated from a different source, it could be hard for him to resist that validation. Not being emotionally satisfied was the main reason 48 percent of men cheated, according to a study by Neuman.

• Cheating makes him less vulnerable to one person

  In case you haven't sensed a theme here, emotions play a great deal more into infidelity than we tend to think. For most men, it's super hard to express how he feels - even to himself. (See above)
  But marriage is all about being vulnerable to ONE person -- which is scary. If he can spread out his life's intimate details between two people, he can feel less vulnerable (and dependent) on one person.

• He doesn't know how to balance love with romance

  Feeling safe, loved and like you belong is a basic human need, but humans also crave adventure and mystery. Balancing the two in a marriage is hard, according to couples therapist Esther Perel.
  When we feel like we belong and our relationship is reliable, routine develops. And there is nothing more opposite of adventure than routine. Sometimes happily married men enjoy the comfort of reliability and love from their wife, but look somewhere else for a thrill.

• He didn't mean to

  More than half of cheating men felt guilty during the affair. Sixty-eight percent of unfaithful men said they never dreamed they would cheat on their wife. This isn't comforting, but it does show how cautious couples need to be to prevent accidental affairs from sneaking in. Technology makes it pretty easy to develop an inappropriate relationship.

• It's NOT about how you look

  Please stop comparing, and never belittle how beautiful you are. Your husband did not cheat on you because he wanted someone more attractive. There is no level of makeover you could get that would make a cheater less likely to cheat.
  And interestingly, only 12 percent of cheating men were more attracted to their mistress than to their wife, according to Neuman's study. Your beauty has nothing to do with it.
  
  
  Read5 ways you are unknowingly destroying your husband and killing your marriage

• His good friend had an affair

  Have you ever heard the phrase, "You are the average of the five people you spend the most time with"? Well, it's true. Seventy-seven percent of cheating men had a good friend who had an affair first. If a buddy your husband respects and loves can justify an affair, your husband might start to view affairs as less damaging than he did before.
  Whatever the reason for the affair, the most important thing to remember is that YOU are worth loving. Don't allow your husband's mistake to make you feel worthless. With help, healing can (and does) happen -- in time.
  
  Original link:
  https://familyshare.com/25132/marriage/why-do-happily-married-husbands-cheat

Soma Zaidi

Filed Under: men, Men's secrets, WOMAN, women's secrets Tuesday, 30 August 2016 No Comments

10 THINGS EVERY MAN WANTS IN BED - ARE THESE WHAT YOU TOO WANT?

Rare is the man who demands acrobatic porno stunts and a closet filled with ball gags and leather whips. Sure, those men exist, and if that’s your cup of kink, go for it. But the truth is, most guys are a little more predictable in their bedroom proclivities. We just want a sex life that’s a little spicy, a little sweet, and still occasionally surprising. Easy enough, right? Sure it is! To make the bedroom a sexual sanctuary, here are the things dudes desire most.


1. To See You Take Initiative
We’re happy to make the first move, and if you don’t, we will. But it’s so much more rewarding when we know how eager you are. Because no matter how much you seem to enjoy the heat, if you never light the match, we have to wonder if you don’t secretly prefer the cold.cold.

2. Sexy Lingerie
We know you mostly wear it to turn us on, and we really, really appreciate it—even if we seem to barely notice as we rip it off and toss it on the floor.

3. Foreplay
Don’t be fooled by guys you see in movies who are always horny and ready to screw like RIGHT NOW. Truth is, we love the slow build as much as we love the crescendo. And good sex provides both.

4. Spontaneity
It’s impossible for a couple not to fall into some kind of rut, even if it’s a shallow one. So don’t ever be afraid to change things up. Pre-work sex, sex without penetration, and sex on the living room coffee table all do the trick.coffee table all do the trick. Just be sure to wipe it down before you put the magazines back.

5. Dirty Talk
Or at the very least, some encouraging moans to let us know when we’re on the right track.

6. To Hear His Name
Nothing keeps us in the moment like the sound of our own name. Use that to your advantage.

7. Safety
Unless we’re in a long-term relationship, you’re taking the Pill, and we’ve both been tested for STDs, then condoms are still part of the equation. Odds are, we have one with us. But what if we run out? Or we forget it? If you can whip out a rubber like sexual Houdini, that’s hot. Even better is if you occasionally pull it out before we have a chance to. It shows us that you’re committed to our sex life, and that you’re willing to take joint responsibility for our safety.

8. A Game-for-Anything Attitude
If we want to play out a fantasy or try a new position, we hope you’ll at least be open to trying. And we promise—we’ll do the same for you.

9. A Sense of Humor
When things go wrong, it can either be hilarious, or devastating. Our ability to laugh together makes the difference.

10. To Make You Orgasm
It’s not all about us, and we know it. So, please—tell us what you want. We aim to please.

Original link:
http://www.womenshealthmag.com/sex-and-love/men-want-in-bed?_rtu=7ulWbo9kTqmKRJNFL0jOJQ%2B

Soma Zaidi

Filed Under: men, Men's secrets, WOMEN'S NEEDS, women's secrets Wednesday, 24 August 2016 No Comments

BOTH MEN AND WOMEN LEARN THE LIST OF 10 THINGS THAT CHEATING MEN HAVE IN COMMON AND HOW TO AVOID THEM...

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  Here is the list of 10 things that cheating men have...

  1. He doesn't respect his own mother

  According to Dr. Carole Lieberman, author of "Bad Boys: Why We Love Them, How to Live with Them and When to Leave Them," a woman should carefully observe how her husband (or future husband) treats his mother. If he is disrespectful to her, he is more likely to be disrespectful to you.

• 2. He is a self-centered narcissist

  Watch out for men who are self-centered, narcissistic and have no empathy. Men who see women as objects and are more likely to cheat. Stay away from them. Don't try to change them, or convince yourself that he needs you, because he is not going to change. (He doesn't want to.)

• 3. He feels powerful

  A study conducted at the University of Tilburg in the Netherlands shows that powerful people are more likely to have an affair. However, Dr. Joris Lammers reports that the relationship between power and confidence is greater than the relationship between power and infidelity. The best way to keep a man faithful is by building up his confidence, but not letting power get to his head.

• 4. He has low self-esteem

  If he constantly worries about getting older, losing his hair or being fired, his self-esteem is probably tanking. He might try to fix things by having an affair in order to help him feel more like a man. The best way help him is to avoid comparing his successes to another person's, and encourage him to fulfill his goals.

• 5. He gives in to his vices

  Men who drink heavily or use drugs tend to have no limits and believe that they can do whatever they want -- even cheat. Avoid these types.

• 6. He suddenly gets very critical

  If he never cared about your weight or how you clean the house, then suddenly everything you do makes him irate, then that is a good sign that something is wrong. If he constantly criticizes and belittles you, he is probably trying to manipulate you in order to divert attention from his bad behavior. Try to figure out if it's stress or depression before jumping to conclusions.

• 7. He flirts with everyone

  If he loves charming every girl that falls in his path -- your mom, sisters, friends, etc. -- to the point that you think anyone would melt for him, it's most likely happening. Make it clear that you will leave the relationship if he doesn't do his part. Men can still be charming without being unfaithful, but they need to be careful.

• 8. He suffers from forgetfulness

  Does he forget your birthday, favorite restaurants and tastes? Does he forget his promises? (For example, taking you out to the movies on a Friday night.) If he pretends to forget his mistake to confuse you and mixes up your likes and dislikes with other people, that is not a good sign.

• 9. He is more aloof

  If he hides when someone calls, or he doesn't answer calls when you're around, there is room for concern. If he changes his password frequently and "forgets" his phone in the car or at work, those are also clues. Most women who have been betrayed report that they say these signs, but they ignored them. Do not neglect your instincts.
  

• 10. Intimacy changes

  If he is less affectionate, but still wants to make love, your intimacy is no longer the same. If you have concerns, talk to him about it. Tell him that you want to be more affectionate. Tell him that you think he's changed, and ask if there is something wrong. If he denies that he has changes, be wary. Something may be going on.
  Source:
  https://familyshare.com/20859/marriage/10-things-that-cheating-men-having-in-common

Soma Zaidi

Filed Under: men, Men's secrets, WOMAN, WOMEN'S NEEDS, women's secrets Monday, 22 August 2016 No Comments

KWAHIYO NI KWELI KUWA USAFIRI WA MABASI TOKA DAR ES SALAAM KUTOKUWEPO JUMATATU? NINI MAONI YAKO WEWE JE NI SAWA HILI ?

Kuanzia Jumatatu wiki ijayo hakutakuwa na usafiri wa mabasi nchi nzima, baada ya Wamiliki wa mabasi yaendayo mikoani (Taboa) kuamua kusimamisha huduma hiyo ili yafanyiwe ukaguzi na Polisi.

Katibu Mkuu wa Taboa, Enea Mrutu amesema zaidi ya mabasi 4,000 yanayohudumia safari za mikoani, yatasimamisha huduma kuruhusu ukaguzi uliolenga kupunguza ajali za barabarani na kwamba, wameshaiandikia Sumatra barua kuitaarifu juu ya suala hilo.

“Tunataka mabasi yetu yakaguliwe kwa pamoja ili mamlaka husika zithibitishe ubora na kama yanaweza kuendelea kutoa huduma za usafiri bila wasiwasi wowote,” amesema.

Chanzo: Mwananchi

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Filed Under: Dar es Salaam, men, Tanzania, Usafiri, WOMAN Saturday, 20 August 2016 No Comments

5 THINGS MEN WANT WOMEN TO KNOW ABOUT VALENTINE

Understanding Men

As you may have noticed, February is slowly creeping around the corner and with it will invariably come with all of the hearts, flowers, diamonds, and Lexus’s that the universe has decided everyone needs to demonstrate their true, undying love.

A holiday that has its roots in sacrifice, martyrdom, and Catholicism, Valentine’s Day has come to mean so much more and at the same time, so much less to couples across the world. The men in our lives begin to sweat at the thought of planning out a night as magical as the commercials tell them we want, so we have put together a few points for ladies to keep in mind as Valentine’s Day fast approaches.

1. Men hate being told what to do.

If you ask most typical guys, they will tell you that one of the worst aspects of Valentine’s Day is that they are being forced into romance by a date on the calendar. It’s (probably) not that he doesn’t treasure you like the rare gem that you are, it’s that he wants to feel free to express his love at the exact moment he feels like it and not just because tradition has dictated February 14th.

2. Your boyfriend/husband/soulmate feels like you have very high expectations and they don’t want to let you down.

If you ask Pinterest, Facebook or any site geared towards women what is supposed to happen on Valentine’s Day, you will receive a very idealistic and usually very costly answer.
Women have somehow decided that the day that used to be devoted to handmade cards and sweets is now the day for marriage proposals, heart-shaped food and rose petals on everything. And the sad truth of that is most average human men just don’t have enough hours logged on to these websites to even have a glimmer of a chance at making your rose-scented dreams come true.
Does that mean he doesn’t love you? Of course not! It means that he was really busy being a guy and forgot to do an internet search for “25 Things that MUST Be Heart-Shaped on Valentine’s Day (or else).”

3. Sometimes having a date in the middle of the week is complicated.

Since Valentine’s Day falls on the 14th every year, it will always land on a different day of the week. That’s a given, right? Well, most couples have busy schedules these days and fitting in a date night on a work night can really throw a wrench in a good system.
Typically, men are creatures of habit and take their work/play schedules very seriously. They want you to feel pampered and appreciated, but there is a chance that every year on February 14th they won’t have the kind of time required to fill your car with “I Love You” balloons and hand-write you a sonnet detailing their affections.
Life just doesn’t work out that way sometimes. You may have to compromise and go out on the 13th or the 15th instead.

4. Blatant displays of affection just may not be his thing.

You have probably come to understand over the years that men and women have certain differences. I’m not talking physical differences, but, obviously, if you don’t know about those, you may be in for a very interesting Valentine’s Day. If a women likes something, she will stand on the top of a mountain, shout about it, proclaim it hers and then proceed to protect it like an angry pirate looks after his booty.
Men, on the other hand, aren’t usually the ones to go hollering on top of mountains, unless deer is in season and there is a cooler of beer involved. A man will show a woman that he loves her in a million tiny ways, each and every day. It will be different for every couple, but there will always be evidence, provided love is there.
Does he carry in the groceries or take out the trash? Does he shower before your mom comes over or lock the door before you go to bed at night? Does he listen to your long, overly dramatic portrayal of your day chaperoning the school field trip to the zoo? I hate to trivialize it, but that’s love for a lot of men and all of that mushy, romantic stuff is just for show.

5. If he forgets, its not that he doesn’t care.

There is a horrible stereotype hovering over guys these days. On holidays, it is usually the guy running around to convenience stores at the very last minute, desperately trying to find the last card, rose petal, box of overpriced chocolate or trinket that proves they hadn’t forgotten the occasion that completely slipped their mind.
According to this tragic story, men are short-sighted, self-absorbed and ignorant of all holidays, personal or national. Is this guy out there? Probably, but hopefully no one has lost enough of her self-respect to consider him as a life partner.
Do guys forget holidays? Of course. But, women do, too. And if you are the recipient of a scribbled on card at 10 PM or a box of Rite Aid’s finest assortment of Russell Stover’s finest balls of chocolate-covered goop, it’s not because he forgot about you. It’s most likely because men are extremely efficient at compartmentalizing their lives. While a women goes through her days stringing things together, a man will concentrate on one task at a time.
After the tasks of his day have been completed, he will (hopefully) remember and there is a chance that he will remember a little bit too late. While a woman will incorporate doting on the man of her dreams into everything she does, a man will think about his special lady when he has time to do so.
 Original link:
http://obsessiondesire.com/5-things-men-want-women-to-know-about-valentines-day/

Soma Zaidi

Filed Under: men, WOMAN, WOMEN'S NEEDS Wednesday, 17 August 2016 No Comments

HERE ARE 5 WAYS THAT WOMEN SET THEMSELVES UP TO BE TAKEN ADVANTAGE OF BY MEN - CAN WOMEN AVOID THEM? LEARN IT HERE...

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  Recently, on a Sunday evening walk around our neighborhood, my friend and I were catching up on each other's lives. It's our routine get-together where we share information about our families, our current relationships or in some cases non-existent relationships. You know, girl talk.
  This Sunday our conversation was centered on this one question, "Why do men take advantage of some women?"
  
  
  
  
  Sounds like a horrible question, right? It is an awful thing, but it is, unfortunately, a reality many women face every day. Emotional imbalances, poor communication and a fear of walking away can lead women to stay or fall into relationships where their interests and actions are easily taken advantage of.
  Though this list does not comprise all the ways women set themselves up to be taken advantage of, below are five common things women do.
  (As a caveat, I do not raise this question in a sexual or physical sense; instead, I propose this question in an emotional sense. Although this article is directed to women, men can experience several of these things as well.)

• 1. Desire to please others

  Women who are consistently taken advantage of in relationships are often kindhearted individuals looking to please everyone. Their obvious desire to make everyone happy and feel appreciated is often seen as a weakness or a soft spot. Your vulnerability is taken as weakness and men often capitalize on this trait to bend your relationship to his benefit.

• 2. Belief you do not deserve anything better

  Strength comes from a woman that knows what she deserves and is not willing to settle for anything less than the best. Settling in a relationship that does not have your best interest at heart sets you up for inevitable trials down the road.

• 3. Comfort zone is your only zone

  Beware of settling into a relationship that is toxic. Do not allow a relationship teeming with unsettled feelings and anxiety begin to feel like your comfort zone. As the time increases and you become more aware of the needs of your partner, do not allow the ease of having a daily routine scare you from breaking free and discovering better opportunities for yourself.

• 4. Believe a relationship has a scorecard

  When women believe a relationship has a scorecard, they are more easily taken advantage of. True love should encourage you to do things for the other person out of want, not out of need. Scorecards that dictate, "You should do this for me, because I did this for you," are not healthy and create unhealthy expectations.

• 5. Take passive-aggressive comments lightly

  Passive aggressive comments are not to be taken lightly or tolerated in any relationship. Their subtle jabs at your self-confidence can harm your view of your own self-worth and belittle you over time.
  
  
  
  
  "Most chronically passive-aggressive individuals have four common characteristics: They're unreasonable to deal with, they're uncomfortable to experience, they rarely express their hostility directly and they repeat their subterfuge behavior over time," said psychologist Preston Ni.
  Beware of allowing passive-aggressive behaviors to leak into your relationships and remain a toxic cloud ever looming over both of your heads.
  We asked the hard question, "Why do men take advantage of some women?"
  The answer is messy and undeniably complicated on all levels. But if there is one thing I hope you take away from this article, I hope it is this: Never allow anyone to take advantage of you or dictate your own happiness. You have it in you to change the world you live in.
  
  Original link:
  https://familyshare.com/25652/growth/5-ways-women-set-themselves-up-to-be-taken-advantage-of

Soma Zaidi

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DUUH HARUSI YA MASANJA ILIKUWA FUNIKA BOVU HASA TAZAMA JINSI ALIVYOTOKELEZEA NA WADAU HAPA...

MCHEKESHAJI wa kundi la Orijino Komedi, Emmanuel Mgaya ‘Masanja Mkandamizaji’, Jana ameuaga ukapera kwa kufunga ndoa na mchumba wake wa muda mrefu aitwaye Monica.
Ndoa hiyo imefungwa katika Kanisa la Mito ya Baraka lililopo Jangwani jijini Dar es Salaam.
Miongoni mwa wageni waliohudhuria harusi huyo ni pamoja na Naibu Spika wa Bunge la Jamhuri ya Muungano, Dk. Tulia Ackson.

http://www.udakuspecially.com/2016/08/hatimaye-mchekeshaji-masanja.html

Soma Zaidi

Filed Under: MAN, Masanja, men, MONEY Sunday, 14 August 2016 No Comments

LEARN 5 ASTONISHING REASONS WHY YOUR HUSBAND ENJOYS MAKING LOVE TO YOU AND HOW TO IMPROVE IT EVEN MORE...

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  Reason #1: He thinks you are pretty hot

  A better way to say this is that he thinks you are the most beautiful woman in the world and has thought so since the day he met you. He feels tremendously lucky he has a wife he finds so extremely attractive.
  With this attraction comes a desire to be intimate, to appreciate your beauty in a way only he can.

• Reason #2: He enjoys feeling wanted

  Just like you, your husband wants to feel ... well, wanted by you. Meaning, he wants to know you are as attracted to him as he is attracted to you.
  He can know you want him in a variety of ways like by you saying how handsome he is, telling him how much you love him, hugging him and kissing him; but, like most men, the way that he can really know you want him is by having sex with him. Your husband will attribute you being willing to be intimate with him to you thinking he is attractive and truly loving him.

• Reason #3: It's more than a physical act

  Again, this may come as a surprise, but because you are his wife and not some random chick, sex for him is way beyond just the physical act itself. To him, sex is now making love, a way to connect with you both physically and emotionally.
  He wants to satisfy you as much as he wants you to satisfy him, and he feels immense joy when you can both enjoy sex together.
  

   

  Reason #4: He enjoys it more now than when you were newlyweds

  • Sometimes as women we begin to have certain insecurities the longer we are married. We think to ourselves, "Am I still attractive?" "Have I lost my mojo?" "I don't have the same body I did when we were first married ... Does he still want me?"
    The truth is he probably wants you more now than he ever has. This is because you have spent significant time together experiencing things he has never experienced with anyone else. His love has grown deeper and more intimate; so, in turn, making love to you is now a deeper and more intimate experience than when you were first married.
    
    
    

    Reason #5: He loves you

  • This reason can be found throughout all of the other reasons; still, it is the most important one to mention and the most obvious.
    Your husband enjoys having sex with you because he loves you so much and he wants to show it. He will obviously try to show it in many different ways, and physical intimacy is one of them. For him, it is a time for just you two, a time to connect with you and renew your love.
    Whatever the reasons are behind men liking sex so much, for your husband, the real reason he enjoys having sex is because he get's to have it with his wonderful and beautiful wife.
    
    Original link:
    https://familyshare.com/23884/marriage/why-your-husband-enjoys-sex-the-reasons-might-surprise-you

Soma Zaidi

Filed Under: men, WHAT MEN WANT Friday, 12 August 2016 No Comments

IT IS REVEALED THE LIST OF 25 THINGS WOMEN WISH MEN KNEW ABOUT IT IS A SECRET EVERY MAN NEEDS TO KNOW ABOUT

Boyfriends make the best of friends and amazing lovers, but it goes without saying that sometimes (okay, a LOT of the time) we think men could do more.

Familiar phrases spring to mind; 'He never makes enough effort', 'he's always with his friends' and 'he never notices me,' but as they say, boys will be boys. So we decided to take a different approach in getting him to understand by creating the ultimate women's wish list (that we hope will make things easier for man and womankind).

And while this is no lesson on how to treat a lady it's a pretty accurate guide into what us girls are really thinking. Boys, once you've read this, you will have THE KNOWLEDGE. Use it wisely.

1. Small things count.
Some guys think all they have to do is surprise us once and they’re set for life, but trust us, we're keeping note. Why not pick-up our favorite feel-good treat while you’re on your way home this evening (clue, it's either wine, chocolate or cheese) or buy us that new book we've been talking about non-stop. Trust us, our appreciation will show.


2. The E-word.
Effort (a word no man is unfamiliar with) is always the hitch. Take out the trash, call us to see how our day was or do something really special for our anniversary. We're worth your time.


3. Confidence is hot, arrogance is NOT.
Every girl loves a man who’s comfortable in his own skin. It makes us feel safe and protected and nothing feels sexier than that. But arrogance? We. Can’t. Stand. It.


4. Chivalry is not dead.
Be old fashioned from time to time - we freaking love it. Pay on the first date, hold the door for us and walk us to the front door. Promise, we won’t call you stage-five clinger.


5. Don’t be a man-baby.
We’re nurturing, yes. Women love taking care of their men and helping them out, but as soon as we feel like we’re in mommy mode we want out. Most guys are kids at heart, but if we’re doing more than a bit of coddling (i.e. cutting your food into little pieces) then there’s definitely a BIG problem.


6. Listen and take interest.
After a hectic day all we want our man to do is listen. Women like to talk and pour their feelings out - it’s a well known fact. We confide in you, because we trust you to make us feel better. So please just mute the TV, put down your beer and just listen dammit!


7. Be honest.
It’s true when they say honesty is the best policy. Telling a fib might seem like a great idea now, but women always find out and when we do it ain't pretty. Most importantly, don’t cheat and lie about it. That's just cowardly.


8. Make us a priority.
Women need to feel like they’re more important than an Xbox. Of course men need to spend time with their friends and have some down time, but 3rd place isn’t cool. If your girl doesn't feel like she’s a priority then you're doing something very wrong buddy.


9. Notice the small things.
Everyone wants to be noticed by their partner. New hairstyle? New clothes? New dress size? New bra? Say something to acknowledge our effort, besides we (partially) did it for you!

10. Take it slow (in bed).
It can’t get any worse than a man finishing before we've even started. Women take longer to reach orgasm and foreplay is key - take your time and don’t rush. Thank you.


11. Turning down sex is NOT a big deal.
More often than not, if we turn down sex, it probably has nothing to do with you. We all have our down days - exhaustion, stress, worry? They’re all major mood killers. It happens - don't take it personally.


12. Help us.
There’s nothing more irritating than a lazy man. Try helping us out with household chores, the school run and daily errands. It’s just as much your responsibility as it is ours.


13. Sometimes we need 'me time'.
Most of the time you can’t get us to shut-up, but sometimes we need a little ‘me time'. If your woman seems relaxed and says nothing's wrong, there probably isn’t. Chill out dude.


14. Learn to say sorry.
Stop being so stubborn! If it’s your fault and you’re clearly in the wrong you owe it to us. Go on, say the magic word. Sorry can go a long way in relationships...


15. Sometimes we really do feel like sh*t.
Men think women are attention seekers most of the time, but sometimes we actually do feel like crap. Don’t forget those painful cramps, headaches and PMS. Periods are hell to deal with - give us a break.


16. Toilet humor.
While poo talk is comical at times sending us a Snapchat of what you ate for dinner yesterday is not our idea of a hot date. Enough said.


17. Take care of your hygiene.
Brushed your teeth? Showered? Deodorized? You’re a grown ass man, just do it already.


18. Know yourself.
We need to be on the same page. If a man knows what he wants and is self-assured they're a lot less likely to seek fulfilment in pointless things like getting wasted with mates and talking to 10 other chicks, (for which there's zero tolerance for by the way).


19. Do not forget our anniversary or birthday.
There’s 365 days in a year and you only have to remember 2 of them, that’s why we get pissed off. Set a reminder on your phone, write it in your planner or tell your mom if you have to (just don't tell us you did), but whatever you do, do NOT forget.


20. Respect us.
Some men don't value their partners as much as they should. Love her like it's your last day, appreciate her for all that she is and be grateful for everything she does. Think about it.


21. Pinterest is your answer to everything.
Pinterest is your saving grace. It's a collage of all the pretty things we wish we could have and it's your job to make our dreams come true. Use it to your advantage!


22. We're suckers for romance.
Never ask a girl if she wants flowers, or anything in fact. The answer is simply YES. Of course we do! Especially, if it's to do with rose petals, candles, dinner and wine.


23. Cook us dinner.
There's nothing sexier than a man who knows his way around the kitchen.


24. Things from the heart count.
If you've ever thought of making a super sweet gift like a homemade card, scrapbook or a mixed CD and thought, 'too cheesy', you're wrong! It's a great way of speaking from the heart especially since guys aren't always so good at it (verbally). We're guaranteed to love it.


25. You can't live without us.
Men often take women for granted, but in reality you're nothing without us! Who else would take care of you? Play dress up? Make you a better man? Just admit it.

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Soma Zaidi

Filed Under: men, WOMEN'S NEEDS, women's secrets Wednesday, 10 August 2016 No Comments