Here is the list not necessarily in the order of importance...
Men would tell us....
1. Don’t just lie there, say something
It would really be nice if you said something during sex.
Scream if you have to but moaning or just talking is just fine. What
matters to us, men, is to know that we are making our woman feel good.
Remember that, other than enjoying his own sexual pleasure, a man prides
himself in knowing that he is able to sexually satisfy his woman.
We also need to know that we are doing the right things the right
way. In this regard, we really appreciate it when you give us some
directions. Do not be afraid to tell us to go slower or deeper or that
we are rubbing you the wrong way or at the wrong place. Commentaries
like these really help us do things right.
More importantly, tell us when you are approaching orgasm as it will
enable us to stop holding back and start letting go so we can touch the
skies together. For some men, holding themselves so that they do not
come before their woman can be very hard work indeed so being signaled
to let go can be quite a relief.
2. What’s with the shoes? And the perfumes?
We understand that your shoes have to match or compliment whatever
you wear but do you really need all those pairs of shoes? A dozen is
more than enough but, no, you want a dozen dozens. Really? How
complicated can colour matching be? White goes with black and black goes
with everything else – most of the times. But, no, it has to be solid
colour for solid colour, shade for shade, stripes for stripes, and polka
dot for polka dot. Really?
And then there is the perfume. As if it is not hard enough for us to
understand why you need all those pairs of shoes, now, we also have to
figure out why you need dozens of perfumes. Do they also go with certain
colours? We just do not get it.
But we dare not ask because we know that, logically, it is not
possible for anyone to explain that kind of extravagance. And logic is
all we, men, understand. So for the sake of keeping the peace we dare
not ask because we know exactly what you will say or think: that we are
accusing you of being wasteful. And we know that doing so will only get
you upset which, as we have come to learn, is never a good idea.
3. Initiate sex, sometimes
You have no idea how much we want you to initiate sex and, by that,
we mean doing it in earnest not just hinting at sex. We want you to do
as we do – touch, touch some more, caress, kiss and go all the way.
The thing about this is that when you initiate sex, you make us feel
wanted and that adds a lot of currency to our self-confidence. It speaks
to our insecurity. Feeling wanted by you means that you are still
attracted to us, that we are still the one you want after all this time.
Of course, we, kind of know that, already, but it helps to be reminded,
now and then, how important we are to you.
4. What do you really mean when you say ‘Fine’?
Or ‘okay’, or ‘do whatever you think is right’? Because we have come
to notice that you, actually, get angry when we go ahead and do that
about which you said ‘fine’ or ‘okay’ or ‘do whatever you think is
right’.
What is more confusing to us is that there are times when your ‘fine’
really means ‘fine’ and your ‘okay’ is really ‘okay’. But apparently,
in woman-speak some words or phrases have contradictory meanings
depending on a woman’s mood, time or place. The challenge for us is to
figure out when you are using which ‘fine’ or the rest of your ‘special’
vocabulary. It would, really, help us a lot if you took time to teach
us the difference.
Unfortunately, we are unable to ask for an explanation because the
only time we are reminded about it is when you get upset with us for
doing that which you had said was ‘fine’. And that is not a good time to
ask you anything.
5. Be sexy – for us
Some men would be very pleased if their woman did a strip tease for
them with pole and all. Others would prefer a catwalk or a lap dance.
The thing is that all men feel great when their woman does something
sexy for them – puts on a sexy dress at home, or indeed,
lingerie.
While most women would find no issue with putting on lingerie or
wearing some sexy dress just for their man, some women may find doing a
strip tease demeaning. That is why we never ask – we do not want you to
feel demeaned.
6. We are afraid to ask you to lose weight
It is not like we want you to look like you are 25, again, but it is
just that we have noticed that as your belly continues to bulge, you
have stopped asking us whether you look fat or not. Not that we were
going to be truthful if you asked but, at least, we would know that it
bothers you, too.
Now, we understand and appreciate the fact that a woman’s day is
always full as you try to be the best you can be for your husband, the
children and even your office. We know that you are, practically, a
hamster on the wheel, always doing something and finding something to do
the very moment you get some free time. As such, we know how hard it
can be for you to spare an hour of your time to go to the gym a couple
of times a week.
But how about just changing a few things about the stuff you eat? We
see several mums at our work place who have actually tried and succeeded
with weight plans that come with little or no exercises at all. And
they are very busy mums, too. All we are saying is that it can be done
without you having to set aside extra time apart from just changing a
few items on your shopping list.
But we dare not ask because you will say that we are accusing you of
being fat and ugly. That is not true, and you know it. So we will keep
our mouth shut and keep the peace.
7. Special bedroom services
Once in a while, for no reason at all, we would like for you to give us a
quickie.
Like, just come over, lock the doors, grab the remote control, pull up
your dress, straddle us, unzip our trousers, take us inside you and
proceed to do us until we come. Then, plant one, big kiss on our mouth,
get off and proceed to the kitchen to continue with your mopping.
And sometimes, when you are having your periods, we would like to see
you do whatever it takes to make us come. Now, we know that may sound
selfish especially when you are having those cramps and all. But our
penis does not know that.
And
how about anal sex?
We would like to see how that feels. It may even be that, before we met
you, we used to be with someone with whom we used to enjoy that kind of
sex. Of course, this is a touchy issue and there are guys who are
actually appalled by it. But, truth be told, most guys have considered
it in their minds.
It is only that we do not know how you are going to react if we ask.
On the other hand, we also hope that, somewhere down the line, you will
be the one who will ask for it. So in order to keep the hope alive, we
keep quiet. And wait.
8. Why do you buy food you will not eat?
They are healthy foods, we understand, but including a bag of
oranges, a dozen apples, a dozen tangerines and two dozens of bananas on
the groceries is not a very good idea for a household of two people.
More so when the batch that you bought last month and the one before
that all ended in the trash.
Now, we are not against you eating healthy foods whenever you catch a
bout of healthy living as you usually do at the beginning of the year.
In fact, we love it and pray that you will stay on the plan. But we also
know that the list of healthy foods that Dr. Oz gives on his show only
work for people who actually eat the food.
9. How about showing some affection in public?
Every man becomes a king when his lady hooks her hand into his elbow
as they walk or stand in public. But much as we would like you to do
that, it is kind of a difficult thing for us to ask. It is okay, for a
woman to ask to be held but, somehow, it sounds sissy when a man does
it.
So, now, that you know, remember to slip your hand into ours as we
walk into the mall, give us a kiss, even. It is just royalty, that
feeling. Priceless.
10. Can we record ourselves having sex?
Okay, we all know that it is very easy for anyone to find our sex
video and post it on Youtube or Facebook for the whole world to see. But
the truth remains that watching a sex film of ourselves really turns us
on. We do not know why but it really does. But, just like you, we are
uncomfortable about the fear of losing the tape and having it end up on
Youtube.
Would it help if you were to be the custodian of the tape? Okay, never mind.
These are just some of the things many men want, but are afraid to ask.
Original link:
http://youqueen.com/love/relationships/10-things-that-men-want-from-women-but-are-afraid-to-ask/
