The key to a successful marriage is unselfishness. If you can put your spouse's needs above your own, you are on the right track. Having the desire to fulfill your husband's needs is in no way submitting yourself to an inferior role as a wife. If you truly love your spouse, then you want to make him happy, and these five things generally make men happy — simple as that.
Every man's needs are different; however, according to Willard F. Harley Jr., most men have the same basic needs. While each person is unique, these needs are what most men pick on average.
1. Recreational companionship
- My husband and I are a
classic example of a couple with hardly anything in common, especially
when it comes to hobbies. We enjoy doing our own things — which can be
good in a marriage. But when we spend time together doing what he likes,
it's often a win-win. Spending the evening golfing with my husband was
never something I would have chosen, but I ended up having a great time.
In fact, it was one of the best dates I have ever been on. Show your
husband you care about him by showing some interest in his hobbies. He
may even return the favor and spend the day doing what you want to do!
2. Sexual fulfillment
- This can be a touchy subject,
but it's an important one. One thing my husband and I have learned is to
never treat intimacy like a game — to never withhold it as punishment.
Doing so only intensifies feelings of negativity and resentment.
Intimacy brings couples together better than anything, and if it's
important to your husband, it needs to be important to you. Whether or
not marital intimacy is special depends on the attitude and effort of
those involved.
3. Admiration
- In a healthy relationship, your
husband is doing his part — whether that's having a career, going to
school, staying home with children, etc. Most of his actions may go
unnoticed. For example, my husband works 8-10 hours a day, then spends
his evenings going to school or doing homework. You may not physically
see how much your husband does for your family every day, which can make
his efforts easier to forget — out of sight, out of mind. Remember, as
often as possible, show and tell your husband how much you love and
appreciate all he does for you.
4. Domestic support
- Domestic support involves the
creation of a peaceful and well-managed home environment. You and your
husband may share household chores and other home responsibilities
equally, or your husband may need you to handle these responsibilities
more often if he is busy handling others. Again, in a healthy
relationship, your husband should be doing his part. If this is the
case, fulfill hubby's needs by cooking meals, washing dishes, keeping
your home clean, etc.
5. An attractive spouse
- As a wife of almost 12
years, I know how familiar and comfortable wives can get with their
husbands — which is great. As a mother of four, I know how easy it is to
stay in my pajamas all day, how luxurious it is to wait and shower when
I actually have five minutes of privacy. Some days are like that, and
that's OK, but don't let this type of thing become a habit. Put effort
into making yourself attractive to your spouse. If you don't see your
husband until he walks in the door 30 seconds before dinnertime,
schedule a few minutes beforehand to freshen yourself up. I started
doing this a couple years ago and noticed a positive difference in my
husband's mood when he came home. Bonus: it makes me feel great, too.
Examining these five needs is a great way to look deeper into your marriage to determine your husband's individual needs. Whether a marriage is in trouble or not, when spouses fulfill each other's needs, the marriage becomes stronger.
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WOMEN LEARN THESE 5 THINGS YOUR HUSBANDS NEED IN THE BEDROOM - THEY ARE NECESSARY FOR YOUR MARRIAGE
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